Sometimes, because this is a personal blog. I can go off on tangents about nothing! it’s not because I think you all want to know about what socks I’m wearing or that I’m in anyway as cool as a celebrity and that my mundane life is cool. It’s actually because for the most part I like to share EVERYTHING I do with everyone.
I am a validation whore. Ever since I began working out I’ve started feeling better about myself and to be honest, I really want to continue to grow by starting to gain validation from within myself.
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So let’s stop talking about me for today and start talking about you! When I say that I want to get to know you, I actually do. I love all most people and as lame and corny as it sounds I truly do hope to gain self love so that I can completely open my heart up to all of humanity – regardless of how much they hurt me or piss me off. Hence why I started Spread the Love.
Anyway, I know it’s apparent only a few of you like the idea of Spread the Love but that’s not why I started it. I need to know more. I need some help. I want to know what struggles and problems you face because, quick frankly, I’m sick of only seeing life through my eyes! I want to gain new sights and points of perception. I hope you’ll help me 
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Please tell me the following things about you and leave them below in the comments below. Anonymous posters are welcome. Please email me if your comment doesn’t show up or you prefer not to disclose this information with everyone. Thank you.
- Did you grow up in a house filled with love? if so, are both your parents married? if not, was there any substance abuse or aggression?
- What’s the one thing that bothers you most about yourself? is it exterior or interior or both? why do you think that is?
- Do you honestly like the way you look when standing in front of a mirror? what are some ways you’ve helped yourself feel better about your body/appearance??
- Do you have any children? If so, how many? if not, do you plan to? if not, do you like kids?
- Are you in a committed relationship? is it healthy? or do you sometimes feel trapped?
- Do you use food, drugs, alcohol or anything else as a coping mechanism? have you in the past?
- Do you anger easily? if so what are some things you’ve done in order to change that? if not, how do you remain calm?
- Do you strive or even care about love for yourself and/or others? Is it of any interest to you? why/why not?
- Do you have an interest about our impact on the environment? Do you currently make any lifestyle changes to do your small part?
- Are we here for a purpose? a greater good? or are we just going to die and that’s it?
- What’s your favourite thing about humanity? what inspires you to work towards a better you??
Ask me ONE question. I’ll be 100% honest no matter what.
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Love and Light my friends. I am truly blessed to have so many people willing to read about my life daily and provide me with feedback that is priceless. I can honestly say you’ve all touched my heart.
Thank you <3 Have a great weekend xo
Ali Mc
I often wonder about my readers too. I think that is why I make a point to read the blogs of those that comment.
1 – I grew up in a home with both my parents, and they are still married today. It wasn’t the most loving, like we didn’t outwardly show love, but we all love each other.
2 – I am bothered that I didn’t keep up with dancing, I just kind of gave up after 12+ years. I know it contributed to my wight gain. That bothers me,.
3 – Some days I like what I see, other days no. I’ve struggled with that for a long time (maybe since I stopped dancing). But recently I have made huge changes in my diet and eating habits — ones I plan on continuing.
4 – No children and I don’t really want to have any. I will look into adoption first. I was adopted and I thank God everyday for my amazing family/life.
5 – I am in a very committed relationship. He is the best guy I’ve ever dated. Makes me laugh, keeps me focused, and supports me like no other. I am not letting this one go.
6 – I have a history of using food. It’s how I gained 80 pounds.
7 – My brothers and I have learned a lot about our tempers throughout our lives. My mom is quick to anger and even though I was adopted I believe in nurture vs nature. So I think I picked up a lot from her. However, my dad is really laid back and I try to take some ques from him.
8 – Of course I care. I think love for myself and others is super important for everyone. It would make the world a better place if people loved a little more.
9 – I recycle everything I can. Never litter — I have a mini garbage can in the car. And I try to buy things that are products of recycled products.
10 – Everyone has a purpose. We all leave our marks and have a purpose. Without you, or me, the world wouldn’t be the same. I like to think that everyone does something good with their time on Earth.
11 – Hope. No matter how bad things get, people still have hope. Hope can change the world when you just believe.
Whoa this got long, didn’t it? One thing I would want to know about you is your education growing up. What was your favorite subject? Did you go to college? If not, would you go back and what would you study?
i’ll put myself out there
1. i grew up in a divorced when i was four, every other weekend with my ‘dad’ kind of home…my mother is an amazing woman…so i will say yes, i was raised in a home with love…
2. what bothers me most about myself is that my standards for others are too high, which leaves me disappointed constantly i.e. having manners, being on time, having tact when speaking…
3.i feel much better in front of the mirror than i once did after having my kids…my body is proportioned much differently even though i’ve lost all of the baby weight plus a few pounds…not exactly where i want to be but i know that is going to take more dedication than i currently have room for..
4. i have two beautiful children, an almost three year old girl and an almost 1 year old boy…i have been cut and burned so there are zero plans for further procreation
5. i am married and in (thankfully) a very healthy relationship..ups and downs happen…
6. i am an emotional eater lol
7. i used to have irratability/stress/ anxiety/over reaction issues…a few pharmaceuticals has greatly increased my quality of life and those around me hahah..
8. it has taken a great deal of work to love the person that i have become..i very much care about loving people or the ‘intentions’ of doing so…however, i have a very low tolerance for ignorance so it doesn’t always happen
9. having any impact on the environment is not one of my priorities
10. this is one of those very personal questions..i do belief we are all here for a purpose even if it is something as small as setting an example for someone else…i believe in reincarnation…
11. my favorite thing about humanity is the good people that do exist, it is very inspiring to meet someone who moves you…my family is the most important factor that keeps me going and striving towards my goals…without their support, i have no idea where i would be or better yet, what i’d even be doing with my life…
1.Did you grow up in a house filled with love? if so, are both your parents married? if not, was there any substance abuse or aggression?
My parents are still married after 46 years, would not say they are happily in love, but a mutal respect and friendship. We were your typical American family, no drama, no abuse, Dad was a hard core cop.
2.What’s the one thing that bothers you most about yourself? is it exterior or interior or both? why do you think that is?
I don’t have a lot of faith in myself. Externally I exert awesomeness, inside I read into everything and don’t think I am worthy of anyones friendship or love.
3.Do you honestly like the way you look when standing in front of a mirror? what are some ways you’ve helped yourself feel better about your body/appearance??
I am getting there, in the last year I have really started with self love and appreciating what my body does for me. It is who I am, all the war scars and all.
4.Do you have any children? If so, how many? if not, do you plan to? if not, do you like kids?
I have two, 12 year old girl and 8 year old boy. I never wanted kids and even though there are days I wish I could send them back, they make my world complete!
5.Are you in a committed relationship? is it healthy? or do you sometimes feel trapped?
My husband and I have been seperated for two years, we are good friends most of the time, travel together, keep the family unit together. I really want to start dating, but see #2.
6.Do you use food, drugs, alcohol or anything else as a coping mechanism? have you in the past?
In the past I used food and booze to cope with life. I was an emotional eater and drinker. I could down 8 beers in a night and have no repurcussions at all, get up at 6 am and run three miles. It got scary, I am on my second month of no booze, and although I still drink, I limit it to three beers a week. My grandfater was an alcoholic and my uncle is borderline. I saw myself heading that way.
7.Do you anger easily? if so what are some things you’ve done in order to change that? if not, how do you remain calm?
I let it all build up then I go off. I get frusterated easily, maybe not angered.
8.Do you strive or even care about love for yourself and/or others? Is it of any interest to you? why/why not?
Yes, this whole month I am working on just me. Finding the things I loved before my marriage failed, finding the person I was or maybe the person I want to me. I want to be happy 100% of the time and am slowly finding that I do matter.
9.Do you have an interest about our impact on the environment? Do you currently make any lifestyle changes to do your small part?
I drive a hybrid does that count? I have a degree in Environmental Management, you would think that I would, I recycle and don’t leave a trail, but other than that, don’t do what I should.
10.Are we here for a purpose? a greater good? or are we just going to die and that’s it?
I would like to think I am here for a purpose, but sometimes I wonder.
11.What’s your favourite thing about humanity? what inspires you to work towards a better you??
My children, I want them to make a difference and know that they matter.
Your questions were awesome!!! and hard!!!
I will play
1. I grew up in a house of love with married parents and they are still married today, over 45 years!!
2.I am bothered that I expect people to think the same way I do and sometimes it floors me that they don’t.
3.I do like what I see, I think I look great for 41, but I have had to work hard!
4. We have 3 wonderful boys, 13, 11 and 3, they are great!
5. Been married to a wonderful lady for over 15 years
6. Drug and alcohol free, nothing good ever happened to me when I drank, so I have no need for it.
7. I am a calm guy, more of a thinker than I am an explosive guy, but I do get frustrated and goto my own world during those times so I do not do anything stupid.
8. Yes I do, I want my kids and wife to know that I love them, and I want people to know that I do care about them. I believe we are to love one another as we love ourselves.
9. I do not go out of my way to impact the Environment, but I not liter or do anything intentionally to harm it.
10. I believe that God has a purpose for everyone of us. I also believe that if you believe in Jesus Christ and repent of your sins, you will spend eternity in Heaven with him. If I thought there was nothing after life on Earth, then what is the point of life?
11. People have good in them and people are good, sometimes we just have to get people to realize that is ok to be good and nice
1. Definitely grew up in a house filled with love. My parents just celebrated their 35th wedding anniversary a few weeks ago! They are a great inspiration to my husband and me.
2. The fact that I am so shy. I’ve passed up on what could have been some amazing opportunities simply because I am so shy. I think it might stem from the bullying I suffered through growing up.. it made me afraid to put myself ‘out there’ for fear of being let down.
3. Most days, yes. I worked hard this past year to get where I am body-wise and am proud of what I have accomplished.
4. None Yet..Hopefully soon!
5. Been married to my best friend for 1yr 6 months now. He’s amazing.
6. Can’t say that I do, or have in the past.
7. I wouldn’t say I anger easily, but when something upsets me, I’m definitely the type to just bottle it up and keep to myself.
8. I definitely care about love for myself and others. One of the things I love most about my husband is the fact that he loves me exactly for who I am.. quirks and all. I love the person that I have turned into and he fact that those closest to me seem to love that person too just rocks my world.
9. I wouldn’t say i have a HUGE impact on the environment, but I am aware and I do care. We’re very conscious about our energy usage, use a brita instead of buying bottled water, use our green (compost) bin and blue boxes.. every little bit counts.
10. And for tough question #1… yes we’re all here for a purpose. What that purpose is, well that’s for each of us to know/figure out on our own.
11. My favourite thing about humanity is the fact that there are still a TON of good people out there. Despite all the bad news and the bad people, we still live in a world filled with good. You just have to know where to look.
My parents have always been amazing and made it abundantly clear that they love my brother and I. Their own relationship has had its own ups and downs and times where it seemed on very thin ice but they are still together and currently way more stable.
I am most bothered about the periods where I lose motivation. I tend to try to be the perfectionist and do everything perfectly at once then burn out.
I dont feel great naked in front of a mirror. Still pretty highly critical (tummy! argh! arms! argh!) though I used to be much worse. My BF helps, especially now I live with him and hes so endlessly positive.
I dont have kids currently, esp since Im only 23 and work in research! However I do want some someday!
Im in a 3 year long commited relationship. I dont feel trapped in the slightest- i like where we are- but I am a panicker about things that N isnt worried about at all.
When my grandfather died I became the most rebellious I have ever been (approx 19yrs old). I was so unreliable and drank a lot and didnt come home when I said etc. I really regret it because my family needed me then, and I wasnt there. It was seriously erratic for me- ive never been much of a rebel.
I dont really anger easily at all. Theres a few things that make me morally angry, like racism or repression of women etc but actual emotional anger I save for special occasions ha ha, I let a lot slide by.
Love of others and care relationships between humans really interest me, My background qualifications are all in psychology and I honestly believe we are largely a social species and we all (to a different degree than others) need other people. I am also someone who really likes having others- BF, a strong core friendship group and family group.
Honestly, I dont make many changes. I would like to start paying more attention to my impact.
Im agnostic- I dont know whether or not their is any huge deity or set of rules or plans. Do the best you can, be a good person, make yourself happy and others to the best of your ability, treat people fairly and dont base treatment on stupid things (race, gender, sexuality). Basically live life like you only get one shot, even if you reckon you get more than that!
The small stories you hear, every so often, where someone didnt have to do a darn thing, yet against the odds they did. Or where someone wasnt expected to make something happen (survival, or even a relationship) but they persevered.
I’m only going to answer number 5 because I’d be hear all day if I did all of them. Yes to the committed relationship. Healthy? Sometimes and sometimes not. For example – the other day Iven was late home from work and I was wondering if I’d be upset if I got a knock on the door by a policeman telling me that he’d been killed in a fatal accident. Got to the point of choosing the next father for my grown up children (and that was kinda fun). But this week after we had a fight and cleared the air I decided that I might miss him a little. But we’ve been married 26 years and I’m sure all wives want to kill their husbands at least once in that time.
I concur
1. I grew up (and still live) with my parents who are married. My mother is my fathers second wife, therefore I have three half-siblings but I don`t really have contact with them since we live abroad and I`ve only learned about them when I was 11. As I said I live abroad, so I never really had much contact with any of my extended family.
2. Probably the fact that I can be very critical and it`s hard for me to hide it sometimes. I also get very moody and my friends have to suffer from that sometimes.
3. Yes, I do. I love myself even more since I started working out. I like having muscles that are a little more defined, stronger legs..
4. I don`t, I`m only 19 years old but I`m absolutely sure I want to have some. One or two. I grew up as an only-child (said that above) and didn`t mind it, but maybe two would be great. Actually, twins could be fun, but then again a lot of work.
5. No, I am currently not. I wish I was though, my background is that I moved every few years, from one country to the next. Currently, I don`t even speak the language of the country I am living in (Hungary), it`s hard(er) to meet people, especially outside of University.
6. I rarely drink, I don`t smoke and I don`t take drugs. I retort to chocolate as a comfort food but I was always naturally thin. Through working out, I found myself loving fruits more and more. Also, I changed my diet – now a vegetarian – and since have fewer cravings.
7. Yep. Said that. With my family, I honestly let it out sometimes and should not. With friends: I try to calm down, sometimes leave.. it helps me to use irony when something drives me mad. I joke about it and it gets better. Sometimes I go running which also helps.
8. Yes, absolutely. For example I allow myself things that I want, I take evenings off and pamper myself, I try to impress myself when I run, and I don`t want to change myself. As for others: I love sharing love, it makes me happy.
9. Yes. I try to do a lot of smaller things. I don`t actually “work” for the environment (e.g. a job) but for example I decide to recycle even though it means that I have to walk to the recycling bins a few times each month instead of having all my trash picked up by the garbage collection. I try to eat local foods whenever I can, too. BUT, I drive my car and I want to, because I hate taking the tram. It`s a luxury for me.
10. Maybe we are here to learn our lesson. But each individual is probably here to open up someone else`s eyes, experience love and be happy.
11. That`s a really, really hard one. I don`t know. I think it`s maybe “just” love. The love a mother has for her child or between two lovers, old friends, someone and himself, the love for a hobby.
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